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Hiya - my mother-in-law is coming up for another annual check up after being cleared of her bc following treamtment 4 years ago. She gets rather nervous and anxious each time the checks are due and I would like to know how I can best support her? Any suggestions?
The Click Project Coordinator 
Daughter-in-law and niece of breast cancer "thrivers"!
Check-up time is often stressful as it's a reminder of the past just when many people are trying to go forward in life. It's important to acknowledge this .. that it's okay, very normal and very human to be anxious!!
Comments you made in Forum "Supporting People With Breast Cancer" - 'Diagnosis of Mother with breast cancer' highlight this where you say how important it is to stay in touch and let her know you are thinking of her around this time. Absolutely on the mark!
Also in Forum "Introduce Yourself" - 'My name is Susan' there are some great responses to a similar query.
Many people feel they should go alone to these appts as often it's a quick check and they don't want to trouble others. However having company (if you can) is often helpful to share thoughts and ease fears. Or just planning to meet afterward can be a good distraction. Perhaps even add a positive aspect to the 'annual check-up' event, such as planning to go out to lunch or 'high tea' (some lovely high teas available if that's your thing!), or other 'treat' that appeals like a massage or facial. Results of any tests may not be available immediately so finding ways to relax, distract and de-stress are invaluable.
Many people quote the phrase 'don't worry until you know you need to' .. maybe easier said than done, but as per Cynthia's quote of the month, worrying doesn't help tomorrow and just upsets today!
Would love to hear comments from others about how they dealt with this ..
This post was edited by Glenys at January 20, 2012 7:10:30 PM WATime"
The Click Breast Care Nurse 
